Journey To My Next Best Life–The Psychic Says

Journey To My Next Best Life–The Psychic Says

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My friends all laugh at me, and my kids think I am crazy, but in my never ending search for some answers I have gone so far this year to reach out to psychics, astrologists, and even someone who calls herself “The Angel Lady.” I thought for certain that one of these “gifted” people could lead me in the right direction on some sort of path of life certainty. The truth be told, there is no certainty, but the psychic (although he was lousy in many ways) did say three words that have stuck with me. He probably tells all of his 50 year old women clients who pay 60 dollars an hour the same words of wisdom, but let me at least believe he was talking to me. Who cares what my kids think anyway? The words from the psychic: CLARITY…CONFIDENCE….COURAGE are with me now on this seemingly crooked journey.

I left his office feeling kind of stupid and pathetic for allowing myself to let some stranger predict my future. But in so many ways Mr. Psychic was right on target. Where did all that go? I was clearly missing clarity of what matters most. After all, I had been looking busy and looking happy for so many years I forgot about just “looking” and “seeing.” Maria Shriver recently wrote on Twitter, “We all obsess about what we are doing and accomplishing. What if we let it go and simply made the way we live our lives our accomplishment.” Maybe it took divorcing Arnold, but that is clear thinking Maria. While I have been so busy looking to accomplish the next best thing and the next, and on and on…was I missing what is right in front of me? Four amazing kids and no matter how old they get they still need you. I am 50 and I still wish everyday my mom was here. I still and will always need her! I actually love that for my own children, I am always the first phone call, even if it is to tell me they just rear-ended a car at a stop sign, or to ask my opinion on getting a perfectly beautiful nose pierced. (Believe me, I had an opinion). I actually like being the “first lady” of the sophomore high school class. My son is the president, and so who do you think was at Costco yesterday bargaining with the lady over the price of 144 roses for the Valentine’s Day Rose Sale? Clarity for me is about living and enjoying this moment. It’s so much about really being present and honest. Don’t you think us 50-year olds have earned the right to not always care what everyone thinks about us? They think what they think. Clarity is about really knowing yourself, and being honest enough to appreciate what makes you happy. I was thrilled to deliver those roses at 13 dollars a dozen. I also didn’t care that I was negotiating with the flower lady in my pajamas and snow boots. I was wearing a big coat…but nonetheless I was in my pajamas!

Confidence is a much bigger word for me. Where did all mine go? Did I give it all away to my kids? They are incredibly confident and strong willed determined people.

I must have had it somewhere along the line. I worked my ass off to become a TV News Anchor at the age of 24. It was indeed lost and needed to be found. So I did what I do best. I made a list. I seriously sat down with pen and paper in hand and listed all the things that I liked, the things that made me happy and the things I knew I was good at. Do it! You will surprise yourself. We are good at so many things and we can do so much of it all at the same time. We have men beat on this for sure. On my list I wrote that I was a good communicator, organized, cared about other people and it made me happy to get involved and try to make a difference. I like politics and entertaining and issues that involve children. My list started taking shape and I started taking steps. I also made a list of the things I don’t like (also incredibly valuable). I know I will never work at the Apple store. I am seriously technologically deficient. Thank god my son is still at home to help steer me! I will also never be an accountant. Numbers aren’t my thing. My list grew and so did my confidence and surprisingly enough clarity clicked in too. I did not give all of my confidence away. It just needed to be dusted off and updated. I truly believe that each of us has the power to manifest change. You just have to start!

This of course leads me to Courage. I think the older we get courage takes on an entirely new meaning. We not only have to be courageous ourselves, but we have to be courageous for those that count on us, like our children and our aging or sick parents. It takes so much courage to step out of your comfort zone, take risks and confront yourself. I mean when was the last time you stood naked in front of the mirror for more than 10 seconds(that’s courageous in itself) and said “I am who I am” and mean it. Courage is about finding strength and taking big or baby steps forward. Sometimes it is simply hard at this point in life to not be afraid of failure. I have indeed been a big fan of going through the list of “what-if’s.” But more importantly “what if” we don’t even try? This is a work in progress!

I really loved your comments and feedback and would love to know how you define Clarity, Confidence, and  Courage. They are big words, especially at the 50-year mark. The psychic forgot to mention that! My kids might be right…

Lauren
Chesley@interculturaltalk.com

Unapologetically You Post-50. Reinvention, Lifestyle, Relationships.

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